Friday, May 20, 2011

May 18th, 2011 (Week 4)

The Rickster has a friend. He's in the second grade. Miss Q watched them play hide and seek. The turtles were test weary, so they enjoyed their short little recess among the little kids.

Miss Q noticed Rickster and his one little buddy. Miss Q also noticed Memphis, who, for the most part remained alone. All by himself. Why, I wondered, when most of the boys accepted him?

He had a new piercing in his left ear. As he walked over, Miss Q looked at him and pointed her finger at her own ear, questioning.

"Who did it?"

"Ahno." he said. What?

"Ahno. I dno."

He was trying to say "I don't know." Being evasive. Miss Q didn't know quite how to feel about it. On one hand it was not unlike The Gage's gage. A endearing namesake. On the otherhand it marked him out as different, and not in a way I would've liked.

Miss Q may have been wrong about Uniqua and Skinny Jeanz. Their friendship, despite their deep conversations about Skinny Jeanz boyfriend, is rather sincere. I like it.

Educational Article: More Schools Trying Separation of the Sexes (Week 4)

More Schools Trying Separation of the SexesBy Michael Alison Chandler and Maria Glod
Washington Post Staff Writers
Sunday, June 15, 2008


Mrs. Demshur's class of second-grade girls sat in a tidy circle and took turns reading poems they had composed. "If I were a toucan, I'd tweet, I'd fly," began one girl. When she finished, the others clapped politely.
Down the hall, Mr. Reynolds's second-grade boys read poems aloud from desks facing every direction. A reading specialist walked around with a microphone. "If I were a snow leopard, I would hunt, I would run," began one boy. One classmate did a backbend over his chair as he read. Another crawled on the floor.
So went a language arts lesson at Washington Mill Elementary School last month, with boys in one room and girls in another. The Fairfax County school, in the academic year that is ending, joined a small but fast-growing movement toward single-sex public education. The approach is based on the much-debated yet increasingly popular notion that girls and boys are hard-wired to learn differently and that they will be more successful if classes are designed for their particular needs.
With encouragement from the federal government, single-sex classes that have long been a hallmark of private schools are multiplying in public schools in the Washington area and elsewhere. By next fall, about 500 public schools nationwide will offer single-sex classes, according to the National Association for Single Sex Public Education, based in Montgomery County. That's up from a handful a decade ago. The approach is especially attractive to some struggling schools in the market for low-cost reform.
The 2002 No Child Left Behind law cites single-gender classes as one "innovative" tool to boost achievement. But anti-discrimination laws banned widespread use of such classes, allowing them only in certain instances, such as sex education lessons. A change in federal regulations in 2006 gave schools more flexibility, allowing boys and girls to be separated as long as classes are voluntary and "substantially equal" coeducational classes are offered.
Several Washington area public schools have tried single-sex classes or plan to begin them. Woodbridge Middle School in Prince William County on Friday ended the first year of a two-year pilot program that offers single-sex instruction in core academic classes for some students. In Prince George's County, Drew-Freeman Middle School students will be split by gender for most classes starting in August. In the District, two new charter schools offering same-sex classes are set to open in August.
As the movement grows, so does debate over whether boys and girls really do learn better separately. Research remains slim on whether single-sex education boosts achievement in public schools. Most studies have examined private schools.
Proponents of same-sex schooling argue that girls and boys are too often shortchanged by coed classrooms and that students from lower-income families deserve access to learning environments once exclusive to private schools. Advocates also cite emerging research that indicates gender differences in brains and cognitive development.
"We as a nation do not understand gender difference and . . . regard it as politically incorrect to discuss it," said Leonard Sax, founder of the single-sex education association and author of "Why Gender Matters." As a result, he said, schools are not helping students reach their potential. "We are unintentionally pushing girls out of computer science, and pushing boys out of subjects" such as arts and languages. He contends that single-sex schooling can reverse the trend.
But many feminists and civil rights leaders cite a long history of separate and unequal education for girls, and argue that segregation will perpetuate damaging stereotypes. The American Civil Liberties Union and five Kentucky families with middle school students filed a lawsuit in May against the U.S. Department of Education and others alleging that the school's single-sex program violates federal anti-discrimination law and is unconstitutional.
"Single-sex education isn't the best preparation for a coeducational world," said Emily J. Martin, deputy director of the ACLU's Women's Rights Project.
Washington Mill Elementary Principal Lizette "Tish" Howard said uniform state standards and teacher quality requirements ensure parity for all classes. She said all-boys and all-girls classes could help remedy long-standing inequities she has observed in her career, such as overrepresentation of boys in special education.
Howard asked parents last year if they were interested in single-gender classrooms for core academic subjects. To her surprise, "I couldn't fill the classes fast enough," she said. She chose to start with sixth-graders because the adolescents were starting to "fall in love with each other" every spring, and second-graders because she wanted to follow their progress over time. Next school year, the initiative will expand to fifth- and third-graders.
To help teachers prepare for the new format, Howard bought them copies of "Boys and Girls Learn Differently!" by family therapist Michael Gurian. The book cites brain studies showing, among other things, that boys don't hear as well as girls and that girls are more sensitive to light. Boys often need to fidget and move to stay alert, Gurian writes, while girls are more likely to behave and pay attention. The book suggests teaching techniques to address such differences.
David Sadker, an American University professor and co-author of "Failing at Fairness: How Our Schools Cheat Girls," said Gurian's findings are "stereotypes of the first order" that will limit children's creativity and options.
But many teachers say the findings match what they see on a daily basis. More than 40,000 have received training from Gurian's Colorado-based institute in learning differences between boys and girls.
Teacher Jean Demshur sometimes dims the lights in her all-girls class, and she said she gives students frequent chances to work in pairs or groups to cater to their social strengths. The extra X chromosomes influence her classroom, with potted flowers on the windowsill, a closet full of pink backpacks and a notebook paper cut-out heart taped to a desk inscribed in pink Crayola script: "I like your hair."
Demshur said her students were more relaxed than in previous school years, and more likely to share opinions or volunteer for challenges. Rhys Spencer, 8, threw her hands in the air and exclaimed, "It's paradise!" to be with only girls.
Teacher Todd Reynolds tried giving boys hacky sacks to help them release energy and stimulate thinking. But after the room became "a popcorn popper," Reynolds said, he took them away. His room's sprawling seating arrangement gives boys space to move around. Reynolds said the layout occurred to him in part because the boys, exhibiting what's often considered a female trait, were "chitchatting" all day.
Reynolds said boys were more likely than in previous years to ask for help, and some often-shy students "seemed to shine." He said he's excited to see a contingent of boys excel at writing, sharing ideas and "feeding off each other."
The school has no test data yet by which to judge the experiment, but Howard noted that grades for children in same-sex classes improved in many subjects. A parent survey found that almost half the boys and almost two-thirds of the girls in the classes had better attitudes toward school.
Some schools have given single-gender classes a try without success. Twin Ridge Elementary School in Frederick County began offering all-boys classes in 2004 but phased them out last year because of lack of parent interest. Students in the school's all-boys classes did no better on tests than boys in coed classes.
Frances R. Spielhagen, an assistant professor of education at Mount Saint Mary College in New York who has studied same-sex classes at a public middle school for three years, said she found some gains for boys in language arts and for girls in math. But as the movement expands, Spielhagen said she is concerned about whether teachers thrust into the new programs will have more than a superficial understanding of how boys and girls are different.
"You can't simply separate kids by gender and think magic is going to happen," she said.

Opinion:

This probably is not the best article out there on gender based classes but the main points for it can best be summed up like this.

1. Boys and Girls Learn differently
2. Single gender classes encourage girls to go into non-stereotypical subject areas

The main point against it is that it promotes discrimination and 'separate but unequal schooling'. I disagree.

I can't say if I'm completely on board but what I do think is that gender schools can encourage boys to go into subject areas like theatre, creative writing, etc and girls to go into technical and science classes. Not only do they sign up for these but they do very well in them.

The reason I'm not totally on board is that I feel like mixed interaction with genders in education can be a good thing. Is it it always short-changing one gender to have both in the class or is it a great way for genders to challenge themselves to see things from different perspectives? Please Comment.

May 16th, 2011 (Week 4)

For once, Miss Q did not look forward to music.

She'd been spoken to on behalf of Mr. Music to not spend any time conversing with awkward turtles during music because they were so chatty. I had a little suspicion thinking of Mr. Music. I almost pictured him with a little displeased expression, annoyed that a Cadet would dare fraternize with "the enemy". I'm sure it wasn't like that, though.

But he was right. That week, Miss Q thought she was being quite helpful to Beancurd by trying to answer his questions. I was just happy that for once he was into the lesson and not making noises at everyone else. Lady Finch explained how Miss Q often tuned out everything else to focus on one thing. Very true.

Sorry, Mr. Music. It was not a great feeling, but eventually, Miss Q enjoyed music again.

Miss Q places sticker bets on Beancurds eating habits. It might be working. Unfortunately, today Miss Q kept her sticker. Beancurd didn't eat anything.

May 15th, 2011 (Week 4)

Today Miss Q sat between Memphis and Skinny Jeanz. They insisted. Memphis apparently was annoying her.

I worked on teaching Memphis different ways to communicate. With a bit of sarcasm.
"Hi, Miss Q how are you? Oh Memphis, I'm glad you asked. I'm fine, thank you."
Then that little smirk came back. He asked me how I was, only he didn't call me Miss Q.

"Don't call me that." I warned.

Were working on it.

Miss Q stayed on him about language the entire day, even pulling him aside and keeping him from his beloved P.E

Miz Boss and I shared commentary.

"It's really a shame, she said. When you talk to him he just looks right through you."

I kind of felt like that.
"Can you hurry up?" he asked carelessly, when I'd pulled him aside. "I like P.E"

Still working on the communication thing.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Respect is Not a Conditional Thing

Someone who lacks respect often has a lack of control. You see kids all the time, so aggressive and ready to pop off in the classroom. They're ready to challenge anything the teacher says. The other kids in the class laugh at these kids, but no one usually admires them. Soon enough, one kid's blatant lack of respect gives permission for others to do the same until the class falls into anarchy.

I'm not a fan of anarchy. I believe in respect for authority out of principle and faith. What these temperamental kids with disrespectful attitudes don't understand is that respect is not conditional.

Usually they'll say, "A teacher has to earn my respect. You have to give it to get it." So now respect depends on the worth of the teacher.

"The lesson was STUpid!"
"I was just really ticked off that day. I was not havin' it."

So now respect depends on whether the kid was in a good mood that day.

A thoughtful student might not show respect for a teacher he/she thinks fails to challenge them. A child with unstable or missing parents might disrespect anyone that makes any sort of pretense of having authority. They seem bent on proving that no one can tell them what to do.

I don't think kids want freedom as much as they'd like. Imagine if all of a sudden your parents no longer cared if you stayed out late, picked a lousy boyfriend or girlfriend, or threw away any plans of what to do after highschool. Wonderful? No.

Freedom like that brings despair and chaos because no one in your life cares enough to get angry with you for destroying yourself. Authority brings the assurance that you matter. Your decisions matter. Your choices matter. Total freedom means total meaninglessness.

Although I didn't always feel like this, I now believe that people in authority should be shown a measure of respect whether they are competent, capable, easy to like, or not. Why? Simply because they're in that position.

Anyone that accepts a leadership position also accepts responsiblity for the people they lead. If a class fails to learn, the teacher is the one under scrutiny. And so a teacher has a right to expect respect from students from day one. Leadership isn't about lording power over people. You're in the position to serve the people who are under you, so to speak.

Respect can't be demanded. But it should be expected.

Edited 7:12 05/15/11

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

May 11th, 2011 (Week 3)

Memphis was back today. Walking through the doors, again I prayed for the empathy to understand what Memphis was going through.

Co-Pilot, way ahead of the Boy Band, tagged Miss Q first today. Zefron and Robbie came after.

Memphis was playing soccer. He seemed taller, so Miss Q told him so when I walked up to him.

Memphis, you seem like you've grown at least 5 inches. I met your brother the other day... No I did know him already, but I saw him. Were facebook friends now. Yeah I have a facebook... What's my facebook name? Wait, what are ya'll doin on facebook?

Nala giggled sheepishly. I knew she had one. Nala and Memphis tease but identify with each other on some level. Both, I think feel misplaced because of their backgrounds.

Miss Q asked him if he would sit with her at lunch.

"Yep. It's cause' I got in trouble with the police and suspended and all that." he said openly, while Nala listened. When Nala asked questions, Miss Q found herself quoting Lady Finch.

"Your story is not his story."
"My story is my story." Memphis finished.

At lunch Miss Q was pleasantly surprised how much The Girls wanted her to sit with them at lunch. Especially SkinnyJeanz. So apparently she did appreciate the advice I'd offered the other day.

But Miss Q passed everyone up and motioned for Memphis to come over and sit at a different table. Miss Q started off.

"From what I hear from you, you have a rough home life."

"Yeah. I played outside the whole time, though."

From there, I did my best to explain all the things I'd been thinking about since his suspension. The words were a trifle stilted at first, not like when I'd first gotten hit that first burst of compassion and inspiration, but they flowed easily after a while.

"Anger is what I see from you sometimes. A lot of times, boys without fathers feel anger. It comes out in aggression, fighting, starting gangs. Because a gang is a means of security. It comes out against your teachers and classmates and against authority."

"Sometimes.."  he admitted.

"There are two choices you can make. Say for example, if not having a father really bothers you. You can turn to anger and gangs and violence. Or you can grow up and turn into the father you've never had. "

I told him about how society needed people like him. How many people he could reach out to that I couldn't. How I believed in him and how I didn't want him to waste his life, quite frankly. He could be for some other little kid what his older brother is for him.

"A lot of boys look up to me." he said. He jerked his thumb to the left, telling me how this friend of his looked to him for everything. I mentioned the other kid who got in trouble. Arbear's kid.

"I hear he's a nice kid."
"No." he shook his head. Interesting.

I told him I would watch him to see if he was taking his anger out at school. He nodded, suddenly serious and understanding.

After we talked I dismissed him and went to sit next to Skinny Jeanz. Mistake. The turtles were quick to point out the no-changing-seats-rule. Because they really stick by that one... But to my surprise, Memphis came to sit next to me.

He was still mischeivous. He broke a spork and twisted it. It was a silly little thing, but Memphis' grin managed to make it look weaponish. Together we talked about his favorite topic, Tennessee(older brother). Miss Q even told him who he thought Tennessee had a crush on. "Don't ask me how I know that." "I wanna know."

We both knew. We bantered back and forth some more. and then I learned that he and Tennessee were both rappers with some studio work in the making. Miss Q likes rap music.

"What do ya'll rap about?"
"Our life."

He was still misceivous. But from that minute, he looked at me differently. He shared with me an slightly innapropiate joke that I knew he had gotten from Tennessee. It was one of those "ur gay" jokes and I honestly didn't get it. But I decided to skip calling him out on it because that was his way of opening up. He lacks other ways of communicating. Were working on it. Baby steps.

But from th When Miss Q asked him to get in line he did so immediately. He would carry on, but then look back at Miss Q, wondering what she thought about this and then that. Anytime I'd correct him, instead of feeling like empty words, they now carried a new sort of value to them. Evidence to prove what I'd said. I believe in you. You have a choice to make.

My hope is that he'll continue to listen to me, recieving my warnings and the things I say as evidence of my respect for him. For now, he'll continue to act and look back, figuring out if I'm for real and what I expect from him. Miss Q is not a powerful male role model. But she became something to him.

Miss R came up to Miss Q and mentioned her concern for Rickster. The one Beancurd had picked on.
"He doesn't look happy."

I appreciated it. Rickster is very quiet, relaxed, and non-assuming. Miss Q thought to look into it, but was troubled. She ws not nearly as sure what to do with Rickster as Memphis.

Even so, today seemed to be a good day for Miss Q's confidence with wayward boys. The Gage clung to distractions and asked Miss Q about her pencil. Miss Q told him outright exactly what he was doing but that reading wasn't going away. A change from last week, he got out his reading assignment. He asked for help, so I got him started. It was amazing.

May 10th, 2011 (Week 3)

Miss Q met a girl named Black Jack today. She's in the 5th grade. Not that that was her real name but I had just never met a girl named after a card game before. She smiled meekly before ducking back into her classroom.

Outside, Miss Q told Co-Pilot and the others the dilemma of choosing a different class to stay in during EOG week. Princesstard was awfully sweet.

"Promise not to like them more than us!" she said. Miss Q told them they were irreplaceable awkward turtles. After all, they were her first classroom.

At lunch, SkinnyJeanz was upset because Solomon was picking on her. On the inside, Miss Q gave a little snort. Solomon always picked on her. Did she not realize how much Solomon liked her and therefore liked picking on her? But no, today was different because her now they were embarrassing her in front of her boyfriend, Kidd Josh. Solomon supposedly has a girlfriend. It's like a big game that they play that's really confusing where they half flirt/half pick on each other.

Anyway, Miss Q dealt with it, careful not to give it more seriousness then it all deserved. Did it really matter what Solomon called her? Do she really think Solomon disliked her?

"It matters. It matters" she insisted. Beancurd with his cheesy grin and constant chatter also annoyed her, while still managing to look sort of adorable at the same time. He does this often.

Sometimes Miss Q wonders if SkinnyJeanz is not a little too preoccupied with being teased by Solomon and sometimes Zefron, and silly comments about her social life. She remains sweet, though.

When Miss Q asked Uniqua what she wanted to be when she grew up, Nala proudly named the career she'd chosen yesterday.

"I'm gonna be a neonatal nurse." Hopefully, her nervous fear of tests would be overcome.

"Who is?" said Uniqua. Miss Q pointed, smiling.

Uniqua wants to be a teacher.

Then Miss Q said nothing, 'cause why would someone want to do that?